Comments on: Hello My Name Is Toni and I am Going Crazy http://juststopscreaming.com/2009/03/hello-my-name-is-toni-and-i-am-going Sun, 12 Feb 2012 05:30:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Kristen Andrews http://juststopscreaming.com/2009/03/hello-my-name-is-toni-and-i-am-going/comment-page-1#comment-9811 Kristen Andrews Sat, 28 Mar 2009 04:01:00 +0000 http://juststopscreaming.com/2009/03/hello-my-name-is-toni-and-i-am-going-crazy#comment-9811 I know when Will misbehaves it is pay back let's just say I had my moments esp as a teenager my poor mother I know when Will misbehaves it is pay back let’s just say I had my moments esp as a teenager my poor mother

]]> By: kirwin http://juststopscreaming.com/2009/03/hello-my-name-is-toni-and-i-am-going/comment-page-1#comment-9803 kirwin Fri, 27 Mar 2009 18:34:00 +0000 http://juststopscreaming.com/2009/03/hello-my-name-is-toni-and-i-am-going-crazy#comment-9803 I don't pretend to know everything about your situation, and my oldest is 5. It sounds to me like he's frustrated about something. I know that doesn't help. Being consistent and following through, like you're already doing, is so important. Have you read the book <b>1,2,3 Magic</b>? It's a parenting book, and I believe it carries through until the teens. <br/><br/>Good luck. {hugs} I don’t pretend to know everything about your situation, and my oldest is 5. It sounds to me like he’s frustrated about something. I know that doesn’t help. Being consistent and following through, like you’re already doing, is so important. Have you read the book 1,2,3 Magic? It’s a parenting book, and I believe it carries through until the teens.

Good luck. {hugs}

]]> By: Angela http://juststopscreaming.com/2009/03/hello-my-name-is-toni-and-i-am-going/comment-page-1#comment-9777 Angela Fri, 27 Mar 2009 04:54:00 +0000 http://juststopscreaming.com/2009/03/hello-my-name-is-toni-and-i-am-going-crazy#comment-9777 My son's still an infant so I haven't been in that position before, but it sounds like you're talking to him about his behavior, why it's inappropriate and why he feels the need to do it still, etc. which is the first thing that I'd think of.<br/><br/>Everything I've read (I know, reading about parenting is silly - you can't really know until you experience but sometimes it helps :P) talks about how kids act out like this because they're frusterated - they don't know how else to express themselves. Maybe he's looking for attention from you or maybe he's shy and uncomfortable and taking it out on his sister?<br/><br/>I would also recommend diverting his attention and energy when he gets in those moods. Lots of active sports or things to tire him out.<br/><br/>I hope something helps! I'm so nervous to reach that age, where my child will need more from me than just a bottle and a game of peek-a-boo :P My son’s still an infant so I haven’t been in that position before, but it sounds like you’re talking to him about his behavior, why it’s inappropriate and why he feels the need to do it still, etc. which is the first thing that I’d think of.

Everything I’ve read (I know, reading about parenting is silly – you can’t really know until you experience but sometimes it helps :P ) talks about how kids act out like this because they’re frusterated – they don’t know how else to express themselves. Maybe he’s looking for attention from you or maybe he’s shy and uncomfortable and taking it out on his sister?

I would also recommend diverting his attention and energy when he gets in those moods. Lots of active sports or things to tire him out.

I hope something helps! I’m so nervous to reach that age, where my child will need more from me than just a bottle and a game of peek-a-boo :P

]]> By: Whitney http://juststopscreaming.com/2009/03/hello-my-name-is-toni-and-i-am-going/comment-page-1#comment-9771 Whitney Fri, 27 Mar 2009 00:56:00 +0000 http://juststopscreaming.com/2009/03/hello-my-name-is-toni-and-i-am-going-crazy#comment-9771 Be firm and consistent. It is good that you explain to him what the the expected behaviors should be. Then, somewhere along the line, he'll have that "ah-ha" moment and remember what you've asked him to do(after the thousandth time, of course.) Instead of punching Billy from down the street in the face, he'll come and tell you that Billy took his ice cream. :) And through prayer, you'll ALWAYS find answers. Sounds like you're doing all the right things. Good luck! Be firm and consistent. It is good that you explain to him what the the expected behaviors should be. Then, somewhere along the line, he’ll have that “ah-ha” moment and remember what you’ve asked him to do(after the thousandth time, of course.) Instead of punching Billy from down the street in the face, he’ll come and tell you that Billy took his ice cream. :) And through prayer, you’ll ALWAYS find answers. Sounds like you’re doing all the right things. Good luck!

]]> By: Savvy Saving Mom http://juststopscreaming.com/2009/03/hello-my-name-is-toni-and-i-am-going/comment-page-1#comment-9770 Savvy Saving Mom Fri, 27 Mar 2009 00:31:00 +0000 http://juststopscreaming.com/2009/03/hello-my-name-is-toni-and-i-am-going-crazy#comment-9770 I have 4 kids, all teenagers now. None have been grounded or done anything to be grounded (so far!). I remember growing up being grounded a lot! The more I was grounded, the angrier I became and my attitude and respect for my mom went down the tubes. I vowed not to do that to my kids. I encourage them to feel what they are feeling (anger, frustration, etc.)- sounds sappy, I know - but they are not allowed to take it out on anyone else. I basically talk them to death about what's going on with them and the most productive way that they can deal with it. Just like us adults, they need to be heard and have someone sympathize with them and that's half the battle in diffusing a difficult situation. Just my thought! All the best to you - I'm sure you have great kids! I have 4 kids, all teenagers now. None have been grounded or done anything to be grounded (so far!). I remember growing up being grounded a lot! The more I was grounded, the angrier I became and my attitude and respect for my mom went down the tubes. I vowed not to do that to my kids. I encourage them to feel what they are feeling (anger, frustration, etc.)- sounds sappy, I know – but they are not allowed to take it out on anyone else. I basically talk them to death about what’s going on with them and the most productive way that they can deal with it. Just like us adults, they need to be heard and have someone sympathize with them and that’s half the battle in diffusing a difficult situation. Just my thought! All the best to you – I’m sure you have great kids!

]]> By: Sara Bonds http://juststopscreaming.com/2009/03/hello-my-name-is-toni-and-i-am-going/comment-page-1#comment-9769 Sara Bonds Fri, 27 Mar 2009 00:24:00 +0000 http://juststopscreaming.com/2009/03/hello-my-name-is-toni-and-i-am-going-crazy#comment-9769 I am not a parent, but I was a child once . . .<br/><br/>I went through a very "bad" time when I was young. For me, it was totally something going on and no one thought to ask. Instead, I just got in trouble in school and at home. I would say, before getting a professional, sit down one on one and talk to him. Maybe go on a date with yor son. Make the day about him alone. When I was acting up, what I would have wanted is for adult to care and sit down and say, "Is there anything you want to talk about? You know there is nothing you can't tell me. Anything at all. I love you and want you happy." etc. etc. etc.<br/><br/>Hope this helps. I am not a parent, but I was a child once . . .

I went through a very “bad” time when I was young. For me, it was totally something going on and no one thought to ask. Instead, I just got in trouble in school and at home. I would say, before getting a professional, sit down one on one and talk to him. Maybe go on a date with yor son. Make the day about him alone. When I was acting up, what I would have wanted is for adult to care and sit down and say, “Is there anything you want to talk about? You know there is nothing you can’t tell me. Anything at all. I love you and want you happy.” etc. etc. etc.

Hope this helps.

]]> By: Jenn@mylifewiththecrazies http://juststopscreaming.com/2009/03/hello-my-name-is-toni-and-i-am-going/comment-page-1#comment-9768 Jenn@mylifewiththecrazies Fri, 27 Mar 2009 00:11:00 +0000 http://juststopscreaming.com/2009/03/hello-my-name-is-toni-and-i-am-going-crazy#comment-9768 So I totally sympathize... my middle is the same (ADHD though so its worse) and now 7 yr old thinks he can get away with being mouthy cuz his sister is... its a daily struggle. They also bicker and fight all the time. We just find trying to be consistant with out discipline is really the only thing that works... oh and taking away certain things like their tv time! Good luck.. I am right here with ya! So I totally sympathize… my middle is the same (ADHD though so its worse) and now 7 yr old thinks he can get away with being mouthy cuz his sister is… its a daily struggle. They also bicker and fight all the time. We just find trying to be consistant with out discipline is really the only thing that works… oh and taking away certain things like their tv time! Good luck.. I am right here with ya!

]]> By: Minxy Mimi http://juststopscreaming.com/2009/03/hello-my-name-is-toni-and-i-am-going/comment-page-1#comment-9764 Minxy Mimi Thu, 26 Mar 2009 23:16:00 +0000 http://juststopscreaming.com/2009/03/hello-my-name-is-toni-and-i-am-going-crazy#comment-9764 I wish I had some advice for you... I hope his attitude improves. ((HUGS)) I wish I had some advice for you… I hope his attitude improves. ((HUGS))

]]> By: Mary@Holy Mackerel http://juststopscreaming.com/2009/03/hello-my-name-is-toni-and-i-am-going/comment-page-1#comment-9763 Mary@Holy Mackerel Thu, 26 Mar 2009 22:58:00 +0000 http://juststopscreaming.com/2009/03/hello-my-name-is-toni-and-i-am-going-crazy#comment-9763 Ummm, I'm still trying to figure all this out myself.<br/><br/>I have a 14-year-old daughter who is devil's spawn I'm sure, but can also be the most loving and wonderful child on earth.<br/><br/>I find it very difficult to be calm through it all, and I get very emotional.<br/><br/>I hear from friends who've been through it that this is all normal stuff, and they know not what they do.<br/><br/>Sorry I can't help, but I sure can feel for you. Ummm, I’m still trying to figure all this out myself.

I have a 14-year-old daughter who is devil’s spawn I’m sure, but can also be the most loving and wonderful child on earth.

I find it very difficult to be calm through it all, and I get very emotional.

I hear from friends who’ve been through it that this is all normal stuff, and they know not what they do.

Sorry I can’t help, but I sure can feel for you.

]]> By: Jen http://juststopscreaming.com/2009/03/hello-my-name-is-toni-and-i-am-going/comment-page-1#comment-9759 Jen Thu, 26 Mar 2009 21:43:00 +0000 http://juststopscreaming.com/2009/03/hello-my-name-is-toni-and-i-am-going-crazy#comment-9759 OH, that must be rough. My guy is only 4 but has a horrible attitude/temper as well. I'm still learning as we go what triggers and what doesn't.<br/><br/>If being outdoors triggers such anger, could it be environmental? Pollen, Dust, exhaust ect?<br/><br/>Hugs, I hope it's just a phase, and it's over quick for you...stay consistant with him.<br/><br/>~Jen OH, that must be rough. My guy is only 4 but has a horrible attitude/temper as well. I’m still learning as we go what triggers and what doesn’t.

If being outdoors triggers such anger, could it be environmental? Pollen, Dust, exhaust ect?

Hugs, I hope it’s just a phase, and it’s over quick for you…stay consistant with him.

~Jen

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