People hurt us, whether they hurt us intentionally or unintentionally, it’s a fact in our lives we will be hurt. Last year I was very hurt by people I considered friends, and it made me very angry and bitter. I was watching War Room, yesterday, and while I thought I had moved past the hurts caused by those people, I realized I hadn’t.
Deep down I hadn’t completely forgiven the people because anytime I thought of them I would get angry. During the movie, there was a gentle nudge from God saying, “Are you ready to forgive them so that you can move forward.” At that moment, I realized a phrase I had seen before was so spot on, “Forgiveness doesn’t excuse their actions, Forgiveness prevents their actions from destroying your heart.“
Whoa, talk about an epiphany. Not that I didn’t already know that, but for some reason, in this situation, it was a hard thing for me to remember. I guess it was because it was people I respected and cared about, the hurt was so deep and I just let it fester instead of giving it to God.
It was at that moment, of realization, I stopped, broke down in tears and asked God to help me truly forgive them, not just say the words. I also asked God to forgive me for my bitterness and anger. You see, that’s one of Satan’s biggest ways to keep us from the plan God has for our lives. Unforgiveness toward others, because if we can’t forgive others how can we expect God to forgive us and, in turn, how can we expect him to bless us and lead us.
In Matthew 6:14-15 (The Message Bible) it says, “In prayer there is a connection between what God does and what you do. You can’t get forgiveness from God, for instance, without also forgiving others. If you refuse to do your part, you cut yourself off from God’s part.”
I’m sorry, what? We are cut off from God’s part!! I don’t know about you but I don’t want to be cut off from anything that has to do with God. God wants us to forgive because he gave his son so that we could be forgiven ourselves! Forgiveness isn’t for benefit of the ones who hurt you; it’s to benefit you. So, not only are you keeping your heart free from bitterness, anger, and whatever other “uglies” come along with unforgiveness, you are also allowing God to fill you with joy, love, and all the “pretties” that come along with forgiveness.
Did I have a right to be hurt? Well, yes, because I have feelings. But, I didn’t have a right to stay angry and be unforgiving. How many times each day do we hurt God by sinning? Yet he loves us so much that He forgives us every time, once we have accepted his son as Lord and Saviour. Some people think it’s weak to forgive, I beg to differ. I think it takes a stronger person to forgive and move on, because when you can be the bigger person and forgive, you are showing the world the beauty you have on the inside.
So, to those who hurt me, who gossipped about me, who twisted my words, who judged me and attacked me for my beliefs, I forgive you. I love you and I pray blessings and favor over your life. I hope you get every bit of happiness you hope for in life. To those who have been attacked and are holding onto the hurt to protect yourself, let me be the first to tell you to ask God to help you forgive those who hurt you. Holding onto your pain is only hurting you and holding you back from the calling God has on your life. We can’t move forward if we are holding onto the past, and being angry and bitter toward someone who as hurt you in the past is doing just that.
Forgiveness, it’s not for them, it’s for you! Who do you need to forgive today?
Feel free to contact me if you have any prayer requests or if you just need to talk to someone that knows how you feel, because I have been there. I pray blessings over each of my readers, and I hope today is a day full of God’s favor!
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