I sure do love that man of mine. I definitely hit the jackpot when I found him. We’ve been married almost 10 years and I love him more with each day. I hope you can say that about your spouse too. Today I want to talk about a subject that can make or break a marriage…money!
Money is something we all need individually or as a couple to survive. It’s also one of the things in marriage that can cause the most fights. There are things you have to agree upon, bills to be paid, and when kids are added in you have to take into account their needs too. At the end of the day, everything you need to do with your money has to be prioritized and a budget put together.
When Brent and I got married we were both working but only brining home a combined $1500 a month, it was so important for us to use a budgeting plan. We had a very small 3 bedroom house, 1 child, another on the way, so it wasn’t just about us as individuals doing what we wanted and spending our money on anything we pleased. We had to pool our resources together and budget out what went for this, what went for that, and then IF we had any left over we could have a little fun.
Our first years of marriage we didn’t have internet (gasp), digital cable, a computer, no extra toys aside from our cell phones, we just had the bare minimum but we were happy. There were a few times it would get stressful and an argument would threaten to happen, but we would sit and talk about the issues and regroup together to meet whatever goal we were trying to meet.
Marriage is all about a partnership and one of the biggest things to threaten that partnership are financial issues. Make time to sit and talk with your partner about the needs you have to meet so you can get to the wants you both have. While it may take a little longer to get to the wants because you have to meet your needs first, talking and agreeing is the way to make sure your marriage isn’t one that is hurt over financial issues.
Make a plan together, take the family needs into account, make sure you are listening to each other, and above all if there is something you can’t agree on at a particular time revisit it later. DO NOT take it upon yourself to make a big financial decision alone. Remember you married someone to have as a partner in life. For us that meant in ALL things!
How do you work together when it comes to money in your marriage/relationship?
*This is a partnered post brought to you by Genworth financial. All opinions expressed are honest and my own.