There are times in life when you have to choose what you will stand up for. Sometimes that might be on behalf of another, other times it might be for yourself. Making your point doesn’t mean the other person is wrong, but what they are asking of you isn’t right for you.
Recently I had to do that and it was scary to me. If you don’t already know, I blog and I love it but it’s also my source of income. I pick and choose what works for me and my blog because I want to be authentic to who I am. You won’t see every single opp, review, or whatever else I get pitched on here because if it’s not a fit for me, why take time out of my schedule? Though bringing on writers, I hope to bring a little more to the table when it comes to content and reviews that readers will enjoy, but aren’t a fit for my family.
Anyhoo, back to the point at hand. Here is the story:
I got accepted onto a campaign and was THRILLED to be part of it. It was a brand I used and a topic I could easily write about. After going over the details and guidelines, I knew what I could and could not talk about. I wrote my post and was very proud of it. In the post I mentioned prayer and talking with God, being something I need in my life. I had comments on the post agreeing with me, and everyone seemed to really enjoy my tips.
Fast forward a few days later, I get an email saying the brand would like me to remove the portion about prayer because they were uncomfortable with religion being associated with their name. I wasn’t pushy at all and simply stated this was something I needed in my life, personally. There were no guidelines about not mentioning religion, I had done nothing wrong. At this point, I felt it would be very unauthentic of me to take something out of the post that played such a big part of my life AND that many people had already seen in the post. If this had been mentioned up front I would have left it out as to follow the campaign rules, as I was doing already.
I offered to make a change and take the word God and religion out of the post, but I could not remove the entire part about prayer. I would be comfortable doing that because 99% of people who read my blog know my beliefs and I would still have been sharing my heart. Unfortunately, the brand was still not okay with that but would rather me change it to meditation or quiet time. I simply said no, and resigned myself to thinking I was done with this brand campaign and that possible future campaigns through the company (with other brands) would be a wash. The irony in all this is the brand actually offers religious organization services, so why in the world would it not be okay to mention prayer in my post?
I had been very upset over this the day it happened and talked to my mom about it. On the verge of tears, I just had to remind myself to trust God and if this didn’t work out there was a reason. I stood up for what I believed in and made sure my voice remained true to who I was. That’s when the scripture Matthew 10:32-33 came to mind “Whoever acknowledges me before others, I will also acknowledge before my Father in heaven. But whoever disowns me before others, I will disown before my Father in heaven.”
In my heart I knew I did what was right, at this point I just had to let that assure me and God comfort me. A bit later I found out that I would still get paid for my post, though the particular brand did ask to be removed from the post. Then, shortly after that, I found out I got a campaign from the company (not the brand) that will pay 5 times more.
God was reminding me that He was my source and by remaining true to Him and standing up for me and what I believed in, He would take care of me. One song puts it perfectly “I’ll stand with arms high and heart abandoned, in awe of the one who gave it all. I’ll Stand, my soul Lord to your surrendered…all I am is yours” Without God and prayer I would not be who I am or where I am today.
I know there are going to be days where it is tough and sometimes it might seem easier to just cave and do what someone is asking, even if I’m not comfortable with their request. But I won’t because I want to stand strong. Stand strong for me, stand strong for what I believe in and be an example to my children. If they see me make a choice to stand up, I hope it encourages them if they ever deal with a situation where they have to stand up for something.
In the end, taking a stand for myself and my beliefs is what is important. I have to look myself in the mirror and I want to know I didn’t settle or compromise…I stood when it wasn’t the easiest thing to do. Someone out there at some point will go through a situation where they will have to stand or compromise and I hope they will stand! It doesn’t matter if it is over religious beliefs or something completely different…take a stand. I hope you will stand up, strong and proud, if you ever need to, don’t settle, don’t compromise, stand! In the end you’ll love yourself even more for it.
Have you ever had to stand up for something or someone when it wasn’t the easiest decision? How did you feel after?