A little over a week ago I volunteered to chaperone a middle school dance that was held to raise money for Project Graduation (an alcohol & drug free after graduation celebration). I love helping for a good cause and had always wondered what went on at the middle school dances, especially since I have one now in middle school. Although, he has went to 3 dances (all at the beginning of the year) and has had no desire to return, but went to this one because I was going and he wanted to help sell the snacks with me.
So off we went to set up and get ready for the arrival of the middle schoolers from the two middle schools in the area. Which by the way I noticed two extremes when I was at this dance in the size arena…middle schoolers are either super tiny and look like they are my middle child’s age or they are massive and look older than me. What happened to looking like the age you are? Looking younger is find but dang some of the middle schoolers were bigger than me in many different ways.
Next was the clothes….if I walked out of the house, at that age, wearing some of the things these little girls were wearing I would have never seen the light of the world until I was old enough to support myself. I saw 6 inch stilettos, shorts with VERY little coverage, one of those cut off shirts (like in flash dance) that you are supposed to wear a tank under…well there was nothing under there and when paired with the tiny shorts it left little to the imagination. I was shaking my head and didn’t know whether to be angry at the parents (if they knew what she was wearing) or pity this poor girl who is obviously barking up the wrong attention tree. There were some appropriately dressed adorable little kids there so not all hope has been lost.
Clothing brings me to the final nail in my scarred for life coffin….the dancing. OMGOSH. I am not kidding when I say I almost threw up, it saddened me to watch these girls. In high school I dirty danced, I am going to fess up right now but even I didn’t dance like this. Girls were doing moves that you will either see in a video like “Salt Shaker” or “Cyclone” or in a strip joint (of course never having gone in one I am just guessing LOL). The parents on the floor were doing the best they could to keep it clean but you can’t monitor every single middle schooler every minute. It was sickening to me and broke my heart for these girls who felt the need to grab the wrong kind of attention. While I didn’t dance near as dirty, I have been there years ago and the kind of attention they are getting is definitely not the kind they really want.
It made me realize how thankful I am that my son has no interest in attending these dances and how glad I was to see him a bit uncomfortable with it all. I may not be able to keep him innocent for much longer but am glad to have him innocent for as long as I can. It also made me realize I hope to instill in my daughter self worth, holding yourself to a high standard and honoring your body. It also made me realize she will never attend a middle school dance unless I am there chaperoning…so not kidding! You can never be too proactive when it comes to making sure they are holding themselves and their standards to a higher level right!
In case you are wondering my son did get out there with a few of his friends half way through the night and did the cha cha slide, but he would have no part of letting me get out there with him something about me embarrassing him LOL. I have to say what middle school was when I was that age and what it is today are two totally different worlds and it makes me wonder what it will be like in 5 years when my daughter and other son are there.
I’m not the only blogger who has had this joy…check out Lynsey’s post “Lessons From A Middle School Dance” to see what she learned! Her experience was definitely a little different than mine, I am going to have to relay that tip to our dj about the country music threat LOL!
Have you ever chaperoned a middle school dance or been surprised at how middle schoolers today act?