Today is the day for the writers workshop over at Mama Kat’s place. I chose the task Forgive and Forget…I think.
To Forgive and Forget is kind of a tough subject. I think it is very important to forgive. As a person you can’t move on if you don’t forgive. I have had to forgive a lot in my lifetime. I have had to forgive being cheated on, being abused, being attacked by friends. I have had to forgive a father that has never really been a part of my life. If I didn’t forgive I would be a miserable hateful person right now because all the stuff I have experienced did make me bitter at one time or another so without forgiving I would never have been able to let go of the bitterness. So it’s very important to forgive for your sake, so that you aren’t filled with bitterness and so that you can be a better person.
As for forgetting, I think there are somethings you should forget and move on, some things are not worth remembering. However there are somethings that you can forgive but it is not easy to forget and some things should not be. There are some things you need to remember so that you don’t have to go through a bad experience twice or three times. Being abused, you should never ever forget that because if you forget it, you may fall back into the abuse cycle again and that could end badly. Being continually treated badly by someone who is a friend is something you should not forget, I am not talking about a little white lie, but being treated disrespectfully and downright being used, if someone does that to you they are not a friend and that should not be forgotten.
So as you can see to me personally forgive and forget don’t always intertwine. You should always forgive, but forgetting sometimes is not always best.